16/11/2011

How Your Job Satisfaction Affects Other Significant

Areas of Your Life and What You Can Do About It.

Your job satisfaction could be inhibiting your attempts to improve your work-life balance, self esteem, relationships and health.  You can change your work situation and your mindset to enhance your employment and other equally important areas of your life.

How lack of job satisfaction upsets your  balance.

You have core emotional needs. These are certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth and contribution, as discovered by Anthony Robbins. For more information follow this link:  http://www.self-improvement-to-personal-development.com/6-core-needs.html  You are subconsciously driven to meet these needs.  Whether you meet them resourcefully or unresourcefully, is your choice.  If your work situation meets little of these needs then it puts a lot of stress on meeting them outside work hours.  If your need for significance (importance) is not met at work you may put undue pressure on your family to meet this need. If you don’t have job security you may try to gain an unrealistic sense of security from your relationship.   If you are not growing and learning at work, creating a few unnecessary dramas at home may provide the challenge you are looking for.

How job satisfaction affects your self esteem.

Your self esteem is raised through having employment that you enjoy and which utilizes your individual skills and talents.   When you are respected and valued in your work place you naturally feel worthy. When you manifest enjoyable employment it makes it easier for you to manifest other quality experiences outside of work. Your job satisfaction can be a barometer for what you think you deserve.

How your job satisfaction affects your health and relationships

When you are happy at work your stress levels are lower which improves your health and you cope better with challenges outside of work.  When you come home from an enjoyable day’s work you are happier to be around, you feel more satisfied and content and this rubs off on your family. Working in a rewarding occupation provides a good role model for your children; modeling to them that they too deserve to have fulfilling employment.

So what can you do about your level of job satisfaction?

Change your thinking

Changing your thinking is the first step because you will take your thinking with you to any employment you choose.

To change you’re thinking:

• Write a list of all the things to be grateful for in your job. What does it give you?
• Compare your employment with something that would be worse.
• Find ways to reduce your stressful thinking e.g.
  •  “In the big scheme of things, how important is this task”
  • What do you need to accept that you wish was different.
  • Take one day at a time
  • Focus on the activities that serve you and bring you pleasure.
  • Know that the only thing consistent is change. This employment may not be forever.
  • Being aware if your expectations are realistic.

Begin the process of changing jobs

• Raise your expectations of what you deserve.
• Discover what limiting beliefs or patterns are holding you back from having the employment you would like.
•  Start looking for the options and possibilities that you haven’t noticed before.  What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?
• Ask yourself: What will it cost me if I stay here for the next five to ten? What has it cost me so far? How good will it be for me and my family if I move onto something I love.

The extent to which job satisfaction affects work-life balance, self esteem, health and relationships will be different for everyone. You decide if it is at a level that serves you and your family. If you find it’s not serving you, you need to change your thinking, your situation, or a mixture of both. Improving your level of job satisfaction can make a dramatic difference to other major areas of your life.

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25/10/2011

Create Wellbeing and Basic Balance – Simply 

Do you feel overwhelmed with the thought of trying to have balance in your life?  Do you think it requires changing jobs, winning lotto or waiting until the kids grow up? Getting out of a rut and creating basic balance can be as simple as reading a good book for 10 minutes a day.

What is basic balance?  Basic balance is your bottom line of what you need on a daily or weekly basis to feel you have a sense of balance. For some it’s good food and exercise daily, for others it’s quality time with friends and family each week. What would you need to have on a daily or weekly basis to feel you had some balance in life?  For me it’s mediating and walking the dog daily. This is the bare minimum I do to fill my cup so I can then authentically give to others.

What are your minimum requirements for basic balance and wellbeing? Is it ten minutes reading a good book, a night off cooking, daily exercise, a weekly cuppa with friends, quality time with your children or 20 minutes to yourself to do anything or nothing? Small pleasures can give you a wonderful sense of wellbeing.  One small self-focused activity can be enough to make you feel empowered, valued, deserving and make you a happier person (and parent) to be around.

Start by:

1. Deciding that you’re worth it!
2. Choosing nurturing activities that are simple and realistic for your circumstances.
3. Choosing what you are going to delete out of your life to allow this valuable activity.
4. Get started straight away so you are acting on the solution and not living in the problem.  Don’t wait for the kids to grow up!

No matter how rushed or busy your week is, small daily nurturing activities give you a sense of well-being and balance. One small action can make you feel like you have a life, you have time to care for yourself and you do count.  It is possible to take time out for yourself and you deserve a balanced life.

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17/8/2011

Six Steps To Change Your Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs and certainty

Beliefs are simply thoughts or ideas you hold with level of certainty. Not too long ago most of the population believed with certainty that man couldn’t fly, the earth was flat and putting a man on the moon – preposterous!  Scientific evidence proved the fact that man couldn’t fly. Your level of certainty is how true the idea is for you and is not an indicator of facts or reality.

How you prove your belief is true

The Reticular Activating System (RAS) in your mind is programmed to look only for evidence that proves your current beliefs are true. If you believe ‘work-life balance is impossible’ your mind will only search for date that proves this belief. Your mind will not register information that shows the many people who maintain their income and experience blissful work –life balance.

The impact of your limiting beliefs

Beliefs affect your happiness.  When your thoughts are predominantly negative, negative emotions follow and your outlook will be pessimistic.  At the same time you will mistakenly believe you have a balanced and realistic view of the world.

Beliefs impinge on your health. The cells of your body are affected by your thoughts. The author and metaphysician Louise Hay has defined the beliefs which create specific illnesses. For example bladder problems are generally caused by fear of letting go and being pissed off.

Relationships are shaped by your beliefs.  When you were first in love you saw your partner in a positive light due to your thoughts.  Many years later your thoughts about them may have changed, especially if your thoughts are negatively predisposed.  Your thoughts about others influence their belief in themselves and their reactions to you.

Beliefs create your reality.  If your world doesn’t look and feel that way you desire, changing your beliefs will improve it. Consciously and continuously affirming and visualising your aspirations will set your sub conscious mind to search for data on how to manifest your desires. Your belief in your ability to achieve the things you desire will also affect your outcomes.

The greater the pain the easier the change

Beliefs are your concept or idea about reality. Many beliefs you created before you were 7 years old.   The length of time you hold the belief doesn’t make it more difficult to discreate. The emotional or physical pain the belief is causing you and your level of desire to change the belief determines the ease and speed of transformation. Smokers who are told they have lung cancer can give up overnight because they believe they have to or die.

 

Here is a simple self sufficient method to transform your beliefs.

1)      Become aware of the limiting belief. You may notice it pop into your mind. Define it in one sentence. E.g. Work –life balance is impossible.

2)        Reflect on the cost to you and others of not changing this belief.

3)      Remind yourself this belief is only a concept. It is like soft clay to be molded and formed into any shape you want.

4)       Some people find it useful to visualize the old belief being discreated e.g.  Thrown, washed away or burned.

5)       Intentionally think about the positive belief that will serve and support you. E.g. Work-life balance is easy for me.

6)      Deliberately and continuously look for evidence that supports your new belief.

You are inadvertently shaping your health, happiness, relationships and lifestyle by your beliefs and your level of certainly in them.  All beliefs can be altered for your benefit and those around you and these six steps are a tool to do it. Your willingness to change and your level of certainty in this process will affect your success. To create the way of life you desire your beliefs must align with your aspirations. You have to believe it to see it!

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21/6/2011

“A man’s errors are his portals of discovery.”

James Joyce

There Are Two Ways You Can Make a Mistake

– The Painful Approach and The Empowering Approach

The painful way to make a mistake which is used most often reduces creativity, growth and lowers self esteem. The empowering way, while it may require some practice to become a habit, it is a better strategy for your wellbeing and as a role model to children.

The Painful Approach

1. Notice your mis-take
2. Severely criticize yourself (after all, this was role modeled to you so must be right – mustn’t it?)
3. Feel  guilt and shame (this is meant to prevent you from making further mistakes but doesn’t usually work)
4. Hide the mistake and don’t tell anyone that you even tried
5. Stay in fear of making another mistake

The Empowering Approach requires a N.A.C.C.C. (knack)

1. Notice your great mistake
2. Accept your mistake – as they are inevitable if you’re living
3. Congratulate yourself for giving it a go (It’s so much easier to criticize others and do nothing)
4. Be Curious about how it happened
5. Consider what you could learn from your experience.(there is no failure only feedback)

Mistakes are worth it.

Staying in your comfort zone to avoid making a mistake could be holding you back from some great experiences and valuable learning.  Look back into your past. Was it your biggest slip-up that gave you some of your greatest wisdom?  Were some of your blunders in life the funniest moments?

Criticism is not a reason to avoid mistakes. Thomas Edison made thousands of mistakes before producing a long lasting light bulb. If he had discontinued because of his own or others criticism you may still be using candles. Listening to criticism gives you two problems your slip-up and lowering your self esteem.

Mis-takes are to be expected if you are growing, learning and moving forward. Babies don’t try walking, repeatedly fall down and give up because it didn’t work. When people learn to drive and crunch the gears, they don’t give up and say “I am going to catch a bus for the rest of my life.” Persevering through mistakes is empowering.

Mistakes are a part of life. How you handle them is up to you. Practice the empowering approach for a while and see how it feels. I think you will find it well worth the effort required to change this habit.

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21/6/2011

Work Life Balance Survey

Can you spare a few moments to take this work-life balance survey? Your feedback is important.

Just click the link below.

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/KY93FTQ

Many thanks.

7/6/2011

Worry never robs tomorrow of sorrow: it only saps today of its strength.

A.J. Cronin

Do not be anxious about tomorrow: tomorrow will look after itself. The bible

a)     A river in Egypt?

b)     Denying the truth or existence of a thing?

c)     Don’t Even Know I am Lying?

d)    A tool for stress relief?

The dictionary defines denial as denying the truth or existence of a thing. It is usually a strategy that causes you to avoid reality and exasperates problems.  Used in a positive way, denial can help avoid stress.

Denying a future stressful event can be a useful tool.  You know you have an upcoming event that makes you feel stressed just thinking about it.

It could be:

• The children’s birthday party you have to organize
• Doing the bookwork for your tax return
• Paying the bills
• A public speaking event where you are the guest speaker – no pressure!
• A visit from your extended family

You wish it wasn’t going to happen. This is the perfect time to use denial. Deny the event exists. Go on lie to yourself. It works.

Denial:

• reduces stress
• lowers your heart rate
• relaxes muscles
• clears your mind
• increases your effectiveness
• puts a spring back in your step

Have you been stressed about an event that didn’t happen? This might be one of those times. (In fact 90% of the things we worry about don’t occur.)  You don’t know what tomorrow will bring. The future is not today’s problem.

So where do you put your focus? You put it on this day only. You focus on what you need to do today to plan or prepare for the event.  You buy the food, do the bookwork, or prepare the speech. When this is done you go on to enjoy the one day that does exist – today. You pretend the future isn’t real; in truth it isn’t.

In conclusion denial is

• A river in Egypt
• Denying the truth or existence of a thing
• Don’t Even Know I am Lying
• A tool for stress relief

Using denial as a conscious strategy can be a lighthearted way to relieve tension and pressure that you are creating for yourself.

Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.

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23/5/2011

A story about Little Johnny and his Heartfelt Needs

Once upon a time there was a little boy, called Johnny whose physical needs – food, shelter and clothing were met by his loving parents.  Johnny’s parents didn’t know that he had emotional needs, heartfelt needs. These needs were:  Certainty- the need for assuredness, security, stability; Variety- the need for change and diversity; Significance – to feel important and admired for who he was; Love and Connection – the need to be cherished and authentically connect with others. Johnny’s parents didn’t know that if these important emotional needs weren’t met that Johnny could feel anxious, insecure and dissatisfied as an adult. He could also develop some impractical behaviours.

As an adult unknowingly Johnny kept trying to meet these needs that weren’t met in childhood. When he went out for the day he carried a medical kit, hot water bottle, ice pack and emergency contact numbers to try to meet his need for certainty.

He avoided routines and often acted spontaneously to his detriment. He changed jobs regularly because he said they were boring. He had a house full of projects that weren’t completed. His friends couldn’t rely on his commitments. This was his unresourceful way of meeting his need for Variety.

Johnny tried to meet his need for Significance by becoming an actor and a politician, unfortunately he was so driven by his unmet need that he didn’t notice that he lacked the skills for either career. At school he was the class clown and at parties he was always the loudest.

When it came to relationships his Love and Connection need was so great that he became a sex and love addict for a time and later avoided relationships altogether.  He became over-the –top nice to people to connect and so they would like him.

Johnny became frustrated when he noticed he wasn’t getting ahead in life. He decided to seek out information and support.  He educated himself on the core emotional needs from some great web sites like Tony Robbins’ site http://www.self-improvement-to-personal-development.com/6-core-needs.html . He also received personal support to change his unhelpful behaviors. He learned ways to identify and meet his needs rationally.

When his core needs were met he started to work towards his dreams and desires and move forward with his life. He found that he became increasingly secure, satisfied, confident and happier with himself. Johnny went on to be a parent that could teach and provide for his children’s core emotional needs.

The End

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4/5/2011

Patterns

Are your patterns serving, supporting and nurturing you?

How can you change them?

Everyone has patterns and habits. Some serve us, for example eating healthy foods and exercising regularly. Other habits are unsupportive for example smoking, procrastination and people-pleasing. These patterns can be conscious – you know you are doing them or unconscious – you are aware of the consequences but not the pattern you have for causing the consequences.

Unhelpful patterns can cause you to be stuck. They can take away the freedom to choose your behavior, giving you a feeling of powerlessness and being out of control. Other people are affected by your patterns which puts a stress on relationships. The more the patterns continue the more you believe you can’t change them which weakens self esteem. The long term affects of unhelpful patterns are usually obvious even though we don’t like to look at them.

How do you overcome unsupportive patterns?

1. Become aware of your patterns. Awareness provides the solution in 50% of cases.
2. Take ownership of the patterns you have created; the helpful and unhelpful. You created them, you can discreate them.
3. Ask yourself: Is this pattern and its consequences serving, supporting and nurturing me?
4. Ask yourself: If it is not serving and supporting me, am I now willing to change it?
5. Ask yourself: What is the secondary gain or payoff for having this pattern. (Humans are very intelligent and everything we do is because in our mind we think it is meeting or will meet a need). For example you may habitually please people to meet the need to be liked.
6. When you have discovered the secondary gain (the need) create new ways to meet this need resourcefully e.g. Start liking yourself more.
7. Repeatedly act on this new way of behaving and the old pattern should slowly or quickly dissipate.
8. To aid the process continually break the sequence of the old pattern as soon as you are aware that you are doing it.
9. If the pattern doesn’t dissipate it generally means that your conscious mind and subconscious mind aren’t on the same page. A professional can assist you to go deeper and give you tools that work with your subconscious. Smokers can often become non-smokers in one session through the aid hypnotherapy since they work with your subconscious.

Patterns can be changed to allow you to have more choices, freedom and success in life.

 

Watch your thoughts, they become our words:

Watch your words, they become your actions:

Watch your actions, they become your habits:

Watch your habits, they become your character:

Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Your life is your message. Learn to choose well.

Schuyler Morgan

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26/4/2011

Do you resist delegating?

Here are beliefs and strategies that prevent you from delegating.

Do you have trouble letting go of some of your daily tasks? Failing to delegate can lead to feeling over responsible, overwhelmed and unsupported. Being unable to delegate can be caused by perfectionism, excessive need for control, your identity as a super hero or a ‘doesn’t work well with others’ type personality. Delegation can allow others to discover new strengths, create connection in the team and improve organisation. Here are some of the limiting beliefs and strategies behind a lack of enthusiasm to delegate.

Belief: The job has to be 100% right.

Perfectionism is often the cause of unnecessary stress and wastes time. Establish what needs to be done to a high standard and what doesn’t and put your attention where it is needed most. Separate the job standard with your value as a person.

Belief: I am responsible for everyone and everything.

Thoughts, feelings and behaviours and the consequences from them are the responsibility of each individual person. Clearly define what your responsibility is and let go of what is not yours.

Belief: I must sacrifice and suffer for the wellbeing of others – Martyrdom.

This belief prevents equality and real connection. It hinders our ability to see ways to delegate and find win win solutions. Find ways that consider your wellbeing and care for others.

Belief: I can do it better than anyone else.

You may be able to do it better. The questions is …is it taking you away from more important work that only you can do? Decide if a task needs to be the best to be completed successfully.

Belief: I can’t ask for help!

Accept your limitations. Drop your ego. Join the rest of the human race and take the pressure off yourself.

Strategy: To feel in control.

We all have a certain amount of control in life. To feel in control focus on what you have control over and let go of what you can’t control e.g. other people and unpredictable outcomes.

Strategy: To avoid working with others.

This may stem from fears about rejection or conflict.  Growing your ability to work and communicate with others enhances ‘connection’ – a core emotional need we all have. When delegating it is important to give clear specific instructions so the work can be done to an acceptable standard.

Overcoming our unhelpful beliefs and strategies around delegating enhances our time management, improves connection with others and reduces stress.  Humans are social beings that live and work together. Allocating tasks assists us in creating a manageable and rewarding lifestyle for everyone.

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11/4/2011

Time Management

– The beliefs and strategies that cause you to

over-commit and avoid boundaries

To resolve time management problems it is essential to uncover unhelpful beliefs and sabotaging strategies. If it was as simple as acting on what we know we would all be experts at time management. Our actions are a result of our beliefs, therefore to change our actions we need to change our beliefs.  We have strategies that help us in one area but limit us in others. Successful beliefs and strategies are essential to good time management. Over committing and lack of boundaries are two common causes of poor time management. Here are some of the beliefs and strategies that cause them.

Over commitment

Over-committing is planning too many tasks for the time available. Over committing leads to stress, overwhelm and feeling torn between obligations and people.  We can become dependent on unhealthy stimulants to keep going.

Unhelpful Belief: The more we schedule in the more we achieve. This can be true, however long term over-committing compromises health which requires lengthy time off to recover. Maintaining an average work load is more stable and maintainable long term.

Strategy: To gain approval and self worth from others by always saying yes to requests. We need to have the behavioral flexibility to say yes or no depending on the circumstances. Gaining self approval through acknowledging your daily achievements and good qualities is far more affective and easier to maintain.

Strategy: Relying on our achievements to boost self worth. There comes a time when we don’t achieve because of illness, aging or going on a holiday, then our self worth decreases.  Know that you are valuable just because you exist and not because of your achievements.

Build self worth and create balance by valuing who you are, not what you do. We are human beings not human doings. Just for this week take twenty minutes of your time to sit and do nothing except recognize your value just because you exist.

Lack of Boundaries

Boundaries are the invisible lines we draw between what we will and won’t give in regards to our time, space and energy. Without boundaries we can become frustrated and inefficient through the interruptions and distractions that we have enabled. We can feel disempowered and resentful.

Unhelpful Belief: A nice person would say yes. A nice person may be less honest about what they want which inhibits true connection. We can be considerate of others and state our boundaries by respectfully voicing and enforcing how much time we have available for them.

Unhelpful Belief: My needs aren’t as important as others. This strategy eventually erodes self esteem. We need to consider others needs and make a conscious choice about when and how much we can assist them.

Strategy: To avoid conflict. This strategy causes us to say yes when we really want to say no to others requests. Look for a win win solution that allows you stick with your boundaries and support others. Know that you are not responsible for how others react to your decisions.

Strategy: To meet a need for variety and spontaneity.  Try to meet your need for variety within the boundaries that you have set. Diarize free time; when you have the freedom of choice to do nothing or anything you want.

Learning to set healthy boundaries in the area of time management can help us to value ourselves more and set boundaries in other areas of our lives. Just for this week take a small risk and set a minor boundary. Notice and feel the positive changes that result.

There are plenty of free tools and tips to enable excellent time management.  Many people struggle with utilizing their time effectively because unhelpful beliefs and strategies prevent them from acting on what they know. These unhelpful ideas and patterns are often reflected in other parts of life as well so resolving them is essential for an emotionally healthy lifestyle.

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Blog 8/2/2011

Author Allison Bright

Why manage time effectively?

Are you in a constant and perpetual rush?  Poor time management can lead to the treadmill feeling – running fast and going nowhere; striving not thriving. Efficiency and effectiveness decline. You can be considered unreliable. Your self esteem is affected by feeling that you are a ‘human do-ing’ rather than a ‘human be-ing’.  You may be achieving, yet in a state of overwhelm and stress. This lack of quality of life then becomes a source of health issues, accidents, difficult relationships, resentment and regrets.

Time management is the effective and efficient use of your second most valuable resource, time.  (You are your first most valuable resource.) You can manifest more possessions, wealth and friends. You can’t create additional time. Each moment of each day is irretrievable

Utilising your work and play time effectively is essential to:

• Working smarter not harder
• Feeling organized and relaxed
• Moving forward
• Achieving essential goals
• Avoiding life time regrets
• Maintaining self worth
• Preserving relationships

How do you achieve better time management?

There are plenty of tools and tips to creating excellent time management. Here are a few:

• Have realistic written daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals, which include your family, health and wellbeing
• Self discipline is a key factor.  Once you have the plan – stick to it.
• Have clear boundaries for yourself and those around you. At work and home, setting and enforcing boundaries politely and assertively is your responsibility.
• Plan and allow for legitimate distractions.
• For a more time management tools follow the link

http://www.brightlifecoaching.com.au/articles/take-control-of-your-time

If you find you are not acting on what you know about good time management the main cause is most likely your unconscious beliefs and sabotaging strategies. To uncover these limitations it may require some honest self searching or the aid of a detached outsider.

Planning how to manage one of your most valuable resources is worth spending the time on.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
Steve Jocobs

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Blog 1/3/2011  Author: Allison

Four Simple Steps to Make Life Easier.

Life has challenges built in; we don’t need to make it more difficult through limiting thoughts, sabotaging patterns, martyrdom and perfectionism. These all create stress, increase anxiety and take the fun and lightheartedness out of life, which affects our health and relationships.

Have you made life harder than it needs to be?  I have made life harder in a variety of ways.

Limiting Beliefs

I have had limiting beliefs that made life more difficult for me. Some of them have been: Life wasn’t meant to be easy. Parenting is hard work. Self sacrifice is always rewarding and money only comes from hard work. I became aware of the limiting beliefs and then decided on new ones that serve support and nurture me.

Sabotaging Patterns

I have had sabotaging patterns where I rushed around my house cleaning and caring – being a martyr.  Forgoing my physical and emotional health with the expectation that one day I would be a rewarded for my sacrificial ways. The pay off didn’t come and I soon gave up my Martyrdom (through overtiredness).

Perfectionism

The house had to look clean and tidy all the time for that unexpected visitor. The house was a reflection of me I thought.  I also had to give 120% to each task to make it just right. This was a way of gaining approval from others. Today I approve of myself when the house looks ‘lived in’ and when I give 90% to tasks Self approval is far more rewarding. Letting go of perfectionism and lowering my standards to being ‘acceptable’ rather than perfect, made life easier.

Over-achieve to feel self worth.

I have worked myself to exhaustion trying to achieve enough so I can feel good about myself. As you probably already know you can never achieve enough to feel good about yourself long term.  Sustainable self worth is an internal process. Building self worth and approval from within through affirmations and acknowledgement of my small achievements is easier than trying to orchestrate self worth externally.

Maybe you have your own strategies to make life harder than it needs to be?

Four simple steps to make life easier.

1. Become aware of the thoughts and strategies which aren’t working for you.
2. Regularly ask yourself: “What am I thinking that is making this situation more difficult.”
3. Regularly ask yourself: “Is there an easier way that is still effective and efficient?”
4. Be open minded to change, new ideas and solutions.

 

“What if we just acted like everything was easy?”
- Mary Anne Radmacher

If all else fails, look for the humour in situations. If you can’t change a situation you might at least be able to laugh about it and feel at ease.

If you have some other ideas you would like to share about how to make life easier, let me know and I can pass them on.

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Blog 9/1/2011

Five ways to improve your work-life balance.

Do you feel stressed and overwhelmed while juggling business, family and personal wellbeing?  Creating work life balance is the art of managing your tasks and resources to create the kind of lifestyle you desire, resulting in greater work satisfaction, loving relationships and increased health and vitality.

Here are five simple and effective ways to improve your work life balance.

Prioritise

Clearly define your values and what is important. Don’t waste time and energy on tasks and events that aren’t aligned with your priorities. This results in feeling fulfilled and content because you are acting in congruence with what you consider vital.

Set Goals

Once you know where to spend your time and energy it’s important to write daily weekly, monthly and yearly goals. Without goals we are a ship without a course swept by the wind and tide. Statistically goals are more likely to be achieved if written down, with an action plan and shared with a friend..

Manage Time

Realistically plan how you will spend your time. Many people often struggle with time management because they over commit or don’t plan their day. This can lead to inefficiency, stress and overwhelm which then affects health and relationships.

Self Care

Put yourself first. Not caring for ourselves often leads to feelings of resentment, health issues and burnout. Looking after your physical and emotional wellbeing is essential to working effectively, being emotionally present with family and feeling good about yourself and your life.

Set Boundaries

Set guidelines for yourself and people around you as to what will be accepted and what won’t. When working from home or with others it can be a challenge to avoid unnecessary interruptions and distractions. Enforcing guidelines may require respectfully saying “No. I am not available right now can we make another time?”

Manage Beliefs

Become aware of your beliefs. Beliefs are only a thought that you have taken on to be true to some degree. They can be changed. You may have beliefs like:  I don’t deserve time out. The harder I work the more I earn. I have to work hard to be a worthy person. Life wasn’t meant to be easy. These beliefs limit your ability to create personal satisfaction and the lifestyle you desire.

Practice these tips and experience the feelings of peace, pleasure and purpose.

Improve your work life balance because you are worth it!

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Just Do It!